"The more invested I am in my own ideas about reality, the more those experiences will feel like victimizations rather than the ups and downs of relating. Actually, I believe that the less I conceptual..."
- David Richo
"Our wounds are often the openings into the best and most beautiful part of us."
"When we feel unsafe with someone and still stay with him, we damage our ability to discern trustworthiness in those we will meet in the future."
"The opposite of interpersonal trust is not mistrust. It is despair. This is because we have given up on believing that trustworthiness and fulfillment are possible from others. We have lost our hope i..."
"The foundation of adult trust is not "You will never hurt me." It is "I trust myself with whatever you do."
"Trust in someone means that we no longer have to protect ourselves. We believe we will not be hurt or harmed by the other, at least not deliberately. We trust his or her good intentions, though we kno..."
"Our identity is like a kaleidoscope. With each turn we reset it not to a former or final state but to a new one that reflects the here-and-now positions of the pieces we have to work with. The design ..."
"In a true you-and-I relationship, we are present mindfully, nonintrusively, the way we are present with things in nature.We do not tell a birch tree it should be more like an elm. We face it with no a..."
"In the hero stories, the call to go on a journey takes the form of a loss, an error, a wound, an unexplainable longing, or a sense of a mission. When any of these happens to us, we are being summoned ..."
"Humility means accepting reality with no attempt to outsmart it."